Talking About Conflicts
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What you will learn
- 1Talk about a conflict with calm words by saying how you feel, saying what you need, and choosing a safe next step
Mini Lesson
A conflict happens when two people have a problem, want different things, or feel upset with each other. Conflicts happen, but we can talk about them safely.
Use calm words
- Start with how you feel: “I feel upset.”
- Say what happened in simple words.
- Say what you need: “I need a turn.” or “I need space.”
Choose safe conflict words
- Use an inside voice.
- Use words, not hands.
- Listen to the other person too.
- Ask an adult for help if the conflict feels too big or unsafe.
Helpful sentence frame
“I feel ____ when ____. I need ____.”
Words to know
Conflict
A problem between two or more people who want different things
e.g. A conflict can happen when two kids want one toy.
Calm words
Words spoken in a steady, kind voice
e.g. I use calm words even when I feel upset.
Need
Something you have to have to feel okay
e.g. I need a turn.
Listen
To pay full attention to what someone is saying
e.g. I listen so I understand the problem.
Solve
To fix the problem
e.g. We solve the problem by sharing.
Ask yourself: "Did I use calm words? Did I say how I feel and what I need?"
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